As the abuse continued, and as she was forced to see her abuser over and over again in social situations, she struggled with self-doubt, panic attacks, nightmares and the weight of whether or not to tell her terrible secret. Childhood sexual abuse survivor turned author, speaker, child advocate and activist Erin Merryn is the founder and president of Erins Law. As an adult, she's reclaimed the voice her. This went on for a month before police got involved. She published a book called Bailey No Ordinary Cat that showcases Bailey's unusually gentle interactions with her three children. Eventually though the conversation has to shift and that question that I will never forget. 35. She is the founder of Erin's Law, which requires public schools to teach children personal body safety on the prevention of child sexual abuse. After years as a teen struggling with nightmares and flashbacks of my abuse, attempting suicide, self-injury, etc., I decided to use that voice to confront my abuser For seven months we corresponded in letters. Erin has spoken at over 250 CAC events.In 2008 she began writing legislators to require personal body safety be taught to kids in school. Alaska Dispatch: So often we hear about "helpers" who encouraged a victim to come forward, or reported for him or her. Look out for motels that might house sex offenders. Growing up in the suburbs of Chicago, I met my best friend in kindergarten. Erin Merryn testified Tuesday in an Ohio Senate committee about 'Erin's Law.' After reading that letter, a switch flipped inside Erin. One thing my abusers kept telling me was that I had no proof that they were hurting me, so why would anyone believe me? The abuse continued until she was almost 9. I feel it would have given me the voice that these men took from me. I am so confident I will get this law passed in all 50 states, because God has already told me it will happen. Merryn cautions that you can never just go by how many registered sex offenders are in your area. She is an activist against child sexual abuse as well as the founder of Erin's Law, which requires public schools to teach children personal body safety in order to prevent child sexual abuse. Low near 30F. Sorry, there are no recent results for popular commented articles. One day, a particular entry she wrote caught her eye. The only difference is now I am running from him in my dreams" (Merryn 49). After Bailey's passing, she adopted a kitten named Carrot. Should someone have known something was wrong sooner? Merryn: I didn't expect a response back from my cousin because my letter was very harsh filled with so much anger and rage. "Alabama needs this law because just like everywhere else in America . Erin has appeared in People Magazine, Glamour Magazine, Time Magazine, The New York Times, Time Magazine, New York Post, The London Times, USA Today, Chicago Tribune, Daily Herald, among others. It was so brutal I thought I was dying, Merryn, Glamour magazines 2012 Woman of the Year, recalled in an interview with the Asbury Park Press. But her parents thought it was because of health problems she was having at the time. Under Erins Law, the New Jersey Commissioner of Education must provide school districts with age-appropriate sample learning activities and resources designed to implement this requirement. "It's something that is going to be with me the rest of my life," Erin said. Ill never be abused again, its just all gonna go away.. And a third girl I know was also abused by him. I eventually would return back to the room I was interviewed in nine months later when I began doing individual counseling but was still not ready to go there into details the shame overwhelmed me however I did learn to finally stop blaming myself for what happened to my younger sister and my entire family. You have permission to edit this article. Someone should have known in my earlier years when I was being abused by an adult neighbor. The Church Sex Abuse Scandals Around the World, Child-Abuse Case Reveals Vietnam's Lax Social Services, (Read why most child abuse goes unreported). Erin Merryn is an author, activist, speaker, wife, and mom to young human children and a fur baby named Bailey. The law has now passed in 37 states. She also wantsteachers andstafftrained on the topic. Sexually abused and raped from age 6-8 by an adult neighbor Erin was threatened to stay silent by her abuser. So far 27 states have passed Erins Law since 2010. The man, then in his late 20s, abused her several more times in the next year, including, she says, raping her during a daytime visit when she thought he wouldn't be home. A survivor of childhood sexual abuse, Erin has worked diligently to lobby every state to pass Erin's Law, beginning with her home state of Illinois in 2009. Alaska Dispatch: When you decided to confront and start corresponding with your cousin, how did it go at first? As an adult, she's reclaimed the voice her abusers tried to silence. Erin Merryn is a powerful speaker and advocate for countless, faceless children and adults in our country who have similarly suffered sexual abuse. Children learn all kinds of safety lessons in schools, like how to deal with natural disasters, fires and strangers. Sunshine and a few clouds. When I was six years old, I was sexually abused at a neighbor's house. "Growing up in the suburbs of Chicago, I met my best friend in kindergarten. Eleven-year-old Erin Merryn's life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted. Erins Law encourages research based curriculum, Merryn said. It was taught every year, and when a creepy van pulled up when I was 12 having a lemonade and the man put his hand out the window asking me to take the change those lessons immediately played back in my mind. Alaska Dispatch: Would something like what you are proposing -- Erin's Law -- have helped you? I also tell parents don't give childrens private parts pet names. 46 reviews. It is my hope hearing my message today youll see the importance of what Im here to talk to you about, said Erin Merryn. Its somebody they know and trust.. When she is traveling to state capitols or speaking engagements she is entertaining her 270,000Instagram followers that follow her famous cat. Erin's Law was the first law passed in the United States requiring sexual abuse prevention education to be taught to students in school every year, and it was subsequently passed in 38 U.S. states before being signed into federal law. Names were the only thing she changed. Who were they? Erin said all she ever learnedin school was aboutstranger danger. But knowing it was not strangers who abused her,she has made it her mission as an adult to make sure kids in K-12 schoolsacross the countryonce a year learnfroma school psychologist or social workerabout personal body safety education. I think he knew that once he had us conditioned, we were easy targets. I can remember that as if it happened yesterday. Merryn: I have witnessed some lawmakers come in voting against the bill who got on their mic after hearing me testify and (told) me they had all planned to vote against this bill and that my testimony changed their mind. He cornered her in basements, bathrooms and bedrooms, always reminding her that she shouldn't bother telling anyone because no one would believe her. After it was republished by Health Communications in early 2005, she began traveling the nation telling her story about the sexual abuse she endured at hundreds of high schools, colleges, sexual assault centers, child abuse conferences and community events. Oh and of course my cousin's voice echoing through my head "No one will believe you, you have no proof, you will destroy this family, this is our secret!" Merryn travels the country advocating for children who are victims of sexual assault. All rights reserved. Erin is a mom to three little girls. Merryn worked with U.S. Visit Amazon.au's Erin Merryn Page and shop for all Erin Merryn books. A place I went to with my eleven year old sister and mother. Do you know if it was as healing for him as it was for you? Her friend slept through the assault, and Merryn remained silent. Erin Merryn is the author of three books about surviving incest, including "Living for Today." She also speaks nationally on the subject. So, she forgave him. CBN News Self - Children's Advocate. The areas covered by your swimsuit are not for anyone to be touching, unless mommy and daddy are helping you with a bath. She is an activist against child sexual abuse. My sister and I both left with stuffed animals and feeling like our secret was now in good hands. The man had threatened Merryn that hed hurt her more if she told anyone. Realizing I was not a fault and learning to let go of the guilt. I also encourage parents to have a code word with their kids, she said. (2013) CNN Newsroom Self - Child Abuse Survivor. Alaska Dispatch: Do you think most lawmakers meaningfully comprehend the issue of sexual abuse? But nobody asked those important questions. Young children tend to hear a lot of messages about avoiding interactions with people they don't know, when in reality they are far more likely to face harm from a relative or family friend. Download it here. I found myself locked in bedrooms, basements, bathrooms, a car, garage and repeatedly assaulted by my cousin.. Erin Merryn's memoir is about how her life was transformed on the night she was sexually abused by her cousin, someone she loved and trusted."I thought when the abuse stopped I could move on with my life. [8] In November 2009, she published a second book, Living For Today, discussing earlier abuse by her neighbor. Little did I know by moving I was getting that much closer to my next abuser. Merryn believes more can be done to ensure children also learn how learn how to protect themselves from sexual predators. Erin Merryn is an author (Stolen Innocence, Living for Today, An Unimaginable Act), activist, and founder of Erin's Law. I was keeping this secret with my best friend because he was also abusing her, Merryn said. Merryn said the abuse only stopped because her family moved away. I will not stop until children in all 50 states are protected from sexual abuse.". And for the next year and a half, repeatedly told me, This is our little secret. Before . The two families have ceased having contact. Merryn (whose other books are Stolen Innocence and Living for Today), the mother of a toddler girl, says this is a conversation parents must have every year and often. Merryn: What caused me to come forward was unfortunately finding out that my little sister was also being abused. Gov. By breaking your silence you are reclaiming your voice. She shows no signs of fatigue, and she seems ready. "I didn't understand what was going on," she says. Alaska Dispatch: You have since spoken up in a big way. 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