If he doesn't give you the reaction your after. what if that guy made the relationship that way and all of a sudden wants to change the game.Vice versa? Needless to say, the abuse of such substances can negatively affect decision-making. Every hour of his free time doesn't have to be dedicated to you. I arrived alone and I left alone. Do what you feel is right. My husband likes to have a beer or two so he does go to the local dive bars with the guys after work. They got married a year later. We are all the product of our experiences. =). I've lived in my little city since I was a teenager and I run into people EVERYwhere, so when I meet a friend I prefer a private location where I am better able to focus on them and our conversation. if your bf is okay with it then there's no problem. So no I wouldn't do that, but I would have an opposite sex friend even in a committed relationship if it was okay with all parties involved. After a couple months of dating I learned her guy friend was gay. I agree with you on the money issue. It is trying to control each other because deep down you don't trust each other to behave in a party environment. We dont live together, we arent married. Nice. Started January 23, By I am not sure what the inside of a bar looks like nowadays.We J. don't go anyway. The thing last time he said he wouldn't get drunk and he did. That, combined with him expressing a desire to do MORE of this bar-going WITHOUT ME and spending less time with mePLUS he comes back from the bar, telling me about girls that are hot for himit's giving me some serious issues that are threatening our relationship. Also, there can be some exceptions and ultimately, you and your partner probably know your relationship best, so just because they've done one of these things before doesn't necessarily mean that they're done with you or have completely checked out. We have no problem with this and neither do most of the couples among our friends. You still are a person, apart from your spouse. Holy crap youre a dick. I guess I J. can't really imagine being in a relationship with someone that I didn't trust enough to be "allowed" to hang out with the opposite sex. But we can do that because we are older and have an understanding of what we want out of life. First of all, guys NEED this time to well, do what guys do. You could talk to him about what he wants and what you want, and reach an agreement together. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. he always blames it on being wasted and passing out. If I'm going to go out it will be with my SO. We will at a social event, but that is maybe once or twice a year. The answer is as simple as the nose on your face. Each family and marriage/relationship should be striving to find its own balance which has its foundations resting upon fundamentals such as love, trust, hard word and communication. Me and my boyfriend have talked about how we felt several times that we trust eachother so much to the point where if i dont talk to him for three days and i know hes at some crazy parties, i wont feel so worried and we trust each other so much that we both openly said that we could kiss other people if we wanted because truly we both know it wouldnt be real and that we love each other. #2 The desperado. My Hubby Do Not Let Me Go Out When I Wanna Have a Girl Night outwhy? Whether he is hooking up with another girl or not, I'd question why he would be drunk often. He would always tell me that well im not going to be able to see them that much when the baby comes. If I had asked questions, and made a couple comments, I am sure I could have had a hundred thousand posts by now too. WE did just make up from a fight couple days ago. I never told her it was on my mind but she knew that my first relationship went sour because if infidelity. We don't go to meet new people--we go to have girl time. (ok i'm being nice, i think it sends that message loud and clear, because men are horny pigs :) -said with love lol.) I have male friends that were servers there who are friendly and are known entities (we have occasional cribbage tournaments). You have to trust that he's just enjoying the company of his bros: drinking beers, talking smack and telling dirty jokes. He wanted to go to bars CONSTANTLY. If its an issue with your partner, then you shouldn't do it. Sorry - J. reality in my world - you haven't made a LIFETIME commitment to your boyfriend - hence the fact he is bf and not dh. I don't mind him enjoying his time alone he needs time to be a man, be with his guys, working on his cars,fishing etc. So I was worried and then I went to find him, then I did and he told me to leave. She went out with the girls one too many times. I cook for my friends (plural). I am dealing with the same thing too. Some people trust because they are good people and lack experience and it's just the right thing to do. Yes, A LOT in his profession. I think if your spouse or boyfriend does mind you doing that, that is what is important.not what others think. It J. seems silly to worry when there is J. nothing to worry about. musician | 7 views, 0 likes, 0 loves, 0 comments, 1 shares, Facebook Watch Videos from Gee Broadcasting Corporation: Our Guest is Kahnma Karnga. Anyway what are your thoughts on the above situation? I'm sorry to say hes not worth ti. Wouldn't work for M., plus I have no desire to hang in bars. Now I don't know how he would feel or a possible future boyfriend would feel. The Desperado is a frequent fixture at the bar. That means, he wants to reassure you that a) he didn't go home with some bar floozy and b) he got home safely. But I've certainly made myself a margarita at home alone :) If I were to do that, or my husband were to do that, I personally would think that's odd -- or 'something' is up (due to our personalities, not because we don't trust one another). Like myself. I see both sides here. I want to flirt, touch and pay lots of attention to him. My husband and I are a like to where he has more female friends and I have more male friends that we are closest to, thankfully it doesn't bother either one of us. I think this can be a real issue for quite a few people and can be very problematic adjusting or coming to grips with, even though there is no reason not to trust. I am one of those guys who doesn't drink often so when I do I also end up on a couch somewhere but I have good friends who protect me .won't let me drive etc.. A bar you've been to with him and women are frequently coming to say hi to him, hugging him, getting his attention. In recent years, there has been a growing need for safer opioid alternatives. I just know in my heart, I cannot be in another situation like I was with my ex, ever again. So my boyfriend is becoming much more distant as of late. Suggest your wife that she can have time for herself too. LDR's are hard for both parties but your boyfreind sounds selfish and callous. Of course I do, but the first time he says "I forbid you" is the time he gets a laugh in his face. I am in a similar situation right now and I'm pulling my hair out. So if you know your husband goes to the townie bar, gets all excited to see the regulars, cheers when people walk in, picks ladies up so they can feel girly, and flirts, then yes, you shouldn't feel bad to do the same as long as you are both feeling happy about it and having fun. BUT, remember, he is out, don't go ballistic if you don't hear from him, and leave him alone while he is out. He should be calling you Luckily for us both, neither of us are the 'bar/club going on a regular basis' kind of people. If he's out with the guys, I want to know exactly where he is in case anything happens. Best way to contact ex-gf after 1+ months of No Contact? On weekends I don't have my kids, I . The "New Age" opinion. Its J. not something we do. It's not that we can't go out, we J. don't want to. Also, my bf will flirt with girls, and I find out about it the next daythis doesn't make me too happy. If it's a trend, however, you might need to do some reflecting. NO. Started Thursday at 07:54 PM, By If you have an open relationship that should be discussed . And now he was at a party and he messaged me around 9 pm telling he loved me. My boyfriend M 23 is losing feelings for me F 20 and idk what to do. Go with your gut on this one. A few times a year I'll go out dancing with my friends (my husband despises dancing) and once in a blue moon I'll meet someone in a bar to chat. he just seemed super down about how his life is going, is this why i might be feeling so neglected by him? Nah, I've never hung out at a bar alone. and remind him that you both can talk about anything! Whether they're truly checked out and just can't be bothered to end things or there's something else going on, you're likely going to have to talk about it together in order to move forward. You get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you're worried he's cheating, or that you aren't good enough and he'll find someone better. If you're insecure, you'll get upset if he talks to his family 50% of the time instead of spending 100% of it holding your hand. Most importantly, he calls you when he gets home. I just want to hear stories of people whose SO goes out with his/her friends and your ok with it? We know where the lines are where each of us are comfortable with and neither one of us has ever crossed it. To M., it isn't a point of trusting my husband or not. This is emotionally manipulative behavior. I am a very touchy feely person. But when it seems to be an all night thing and it's an always and never, those are telling signs that something isn't normal. What scares me is my jealousy. Press the ignition button, then turn on the gas; press and hold it again for three seconds, not four or two or you might as well start from the beginning. Yes, if you've provided all the details. Its not in my personality to go to a bar alone.but I have gone out to the bar with some girlfriends and/or my SIL. I'm so glad someone else is in this same position! I'm married. I'm in the same situation. But not everyone would know the difference. What I'd really prefer though is to go out with a few drinks with HIM! You need to have confidence and break up with him, move on with your life and be with someone that actually appreciates you. I do what I CHOOSE to do. So no - when we were dating I did go out dancing quite a bit with my girlfriends - and of course we were hit on - but I never went home with anyone or to anyone other than my hubs. But that does not mean, you have to live under a rock. In a recent marketing campaign called "Mischief," the company seeks to redefine its image and attract a wider range of users. Yes. You get worried when you see your partner with someone else. By I had an ex bf from years ago. Am I crazy for being upset? My husband knows how I am with and with out ( I act the same way no matter what) him and he has no problem with it. I know that no matter who my husband meets, talks to, get hit on by, that he is devoted to M. and my kids and he feels the same way about M.. This is something we as humans can't help. And I understood that too because I thought it was okay to be angry, but I still don't get angry with him when I'm mad. I think you need to face up to that and . Like, the power play becomes important when it comes to understanding the experience. I worked yesterday and then picked up my daughter and then had dinner and met her dad at the park so he could take her for the night. If everyone is happy and fully informed, then well done and furthermore none of my business. You know that your a girl. Guy didnt wish me happy birthday am I wrong to be upset? jwrunner81 If not, he'll just call you the next morning and explain his night.. you know? ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, 21 hours ago, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:16 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:24 PM, ENA posted a blog entry in Articles, Monday at 07:29 PM, By 1. If I should meet another man, I see no reason not to remain friends with this man. Now, pull out the choke - but only three-quarters of the way - hit that button again. The only time it becomes an issue is when other people judge you per say or make comments like-really!? We care about each other but we aren't crazy. ahhh thats the one=) I haven't been there since January so it was a nice change. ***My hubby used to get mad when we'd be out for drinks together and he'd go to the bathroom and come back and find a guy talking to M.. I think it's fantastic you are stretching yourself out of your comfort zone. Mostly for work, like happy hours. When he normally calls and then he doesn't is when he is out having fun. It's okay to relax. My husband works at a bar on the weekends. I go with the women, some bring husbands and there are occasionally some of thier male friends that wander in. However, I understand about being concerned that he gets drunk, maybe has problems w/self-control.. I could understand drinking a little too much, but once you reach the level of passing out that borderlines alcoholism. It makes me panic. Im in a long distance relationship myself, like we're in two different continents, it kind of ***** but its cool at the same time! Although it's good for your relationship for both your and your partner to do things without the other person, some of the specific things that they (or you) do alone can actually give you some insight into how they're feeling about the relationship. If it isn't, then do what you want. :) Turd. Also we fully disclose everything before we even do something so we will ask the other. Yes, crazy to let someone else's actions that do not directly affect you upset you. I do think individuals should have "M. time" and couples should have dates. My husband will not go out to bars or clubs without M., he thinks it is wrong and makes him uncomfortable.in his defense he is devilishly handsome and gets hit on like no one I have ever seen, so I get where he is coming from. Traveling for work aside, if your partner tries to leave you behind, that's probably not a great sign. Night after Friday night, he'd ask about my week, make jokes with me during lulls in the bar rush, and never charge me for my vodka buzz. Started Friday at 03:52 AM, By So I'm thinking all of you ladies would think I was bad. How many people have you slept with in your life?? It would be one thing if your SO is telling you where you can and cannot go. He never mentions any friends and doesn't. I never expected much because I knew the type of person I was dating. Plus it's annoying for the fellas to have that one guy who's always checking in. If it was a few hours I'd be fine but he goes off grid for like 10/12 hours at a time and then texts to say his phone died, or he left it at home etc should I be questioning this? During a casual dinner with three other couples, the guys repeatedly implored my boyfriend to go with them to a strip club. Anyways, tonight he is going out with his buddy (whom I have met) and he let me know. LOTS of women purposely go after married men. i dont really know how to feel about this. I am the same way. Maintaining organization for your electronics is very enjoyable. evenworse That I trust him to hang out means he can trust that if I say she give M. a bad vibe it isn't because she is pretty, or anything, it is J. something is off. "It likely means that they don't want you in family photos and/or on their family's mind. No. 9. A group of people going out, no problem. Lets see how many times I can add to this. I'm 36 and he is 40, with two young kids who are adorable. The good thing about that is when he turns M. on or says sexy things to M., I don't have to turn him down and I get to go home with him! Often she would be out till 2am or so.. But that's J. M.! I wouldn't want to tempt her or her M.. Good relationships are too hard to come by and I wouldn't want to jepordize one. 2023 ZIFF DAVIS CANADA, INC. ALL RIGHTS RESERVED. We are comfortable with each other and trust each other 100%!! Anyways, that is the past, but you know how the past has a way of coming back and biting you in the behind! If you want to keep this guy then you will have to learn to give him his freedom. So she keeps sending snapchats.. but wont text/call me. Am I being gas lighted? Troy loves M. and only M., he wants only M., you put him in a room with naked women he would have the most uncomfortable look on his face. He is free to go where he wants and so am I but we make choices to do and go places that honor our marriage and protect it at all costs. You have a good one it appears. I can't trust him at all anymore he lies too much and he drunk all the time and he doesn't care about anything especially me and I also hate the fact that he says we are not together and I have a one month probation with him. Fast forward to today, I had an awesome girlfriend, whom I encouraged to have her own life outside our relationship. I don't visit bars very often. Yuck. It's good "guy" time doesn't bother M. Now, if it was a strip club he was going to, my answer would then be no :). His words said no but his actions usually said yes. Be In Touch with Him. Everyone on this site is so over dramatic! And I suppose it would depend on that. It's not about permission but about respect because we don't want the other to feel uncomfortable. To use this example: "I don't want to be . Most chicks out here don't go out to bars as singles. I love him but he doesn't seem to put any effort. 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